Should I….?

Does ‘What if…’ bothers you?

‘What if….”

Does this thought often bother you? Are you the one who spends a lot of time thinking on “What if….” before starting anything new? Do you often think of the negative aspects even if there are no valid reasons to do so?

You will notice that all your ‘What if…” have one common element- the fear factor!

 The ‘fear of the unknown’.

What is Fear of Unknown?

Most of this fear is based out of your assumptions and not on facts. You need to make yourself free from this ‘unknown fear’. Unless and until you do that, it will be difficult for you to accomplish anything important in your life- both at personal and at professional level.

How does one achieve that state of mind? I will share something from my own life. I too had many fears in my mind as I was growing up. Moving from adolescence state to a young man and then to crossing my midlife, I was continuously faced with so many fears that many times I wondered if at all will I be leading a free and happy life devoid of all my fears? Then as I gained experience in life, I slowly started taking risks; risks of giving an attempt to all the things/activities that I had some kind of fear attached to. And I was pleasantly surprised to find that most of the fears that I associated with these things/activities were mere fears only!

In practical life, they (the fears) just don’t exist!

What is the solution?

Here is the Key; to begin with, attempt very small or not very significant fears of yours and keep repeating the action (your attempt) accumulating the small victories. After a point, you will have the confidence and the mental strength to attack your bigger fears. And slowly you will achieve bigger victories. You will be ready to take calculated risks in your life and will make significant progress.

And you know what? The biggest lesson for me in all this was:

People give a damn about you!

So, the biggest worry that we have in our mind ‘what will people say’ is so irrelevant and exasperating.

And remember: On the other side of your FEAR…. lies your SUCCESS!

Congratulations…You have become Manager!!

Don’t hold that placard! Pic Credit : Pixbay

The transition from being a team member into a manager is not always easy for an employee. How to fit into the new role? What qualities do the team member require to be a successful manager. Many organizations spend huge amount of time and money to study what makes a successful manager. And as the finding shows, below are some of the key traits that the managers should follow to become a successful manager: –

Don’t do micromanagement- Be more concerned about the end result rather than anything else.

Good communication skills- Communications is the key and that includes active LISTENING!

Need to have technical knowledge too- No more general management will do! You need to excel in the technical aspect of the domain that you are managing

Have vision for the team- As a manager you are responsible to take your team to the next level.

Show empathy towards team members- Be patient and understanding! Remember you are not working with robots but with humans who have emotions. Often our managers forget this very fundamental principal.

Ensure development and career advancement for the team members- Everyone looks for growth and development. Ensure, as a manager you discuss their career path in the organization.

And lastly, very important, you need to be the coach for your team. As a coach, you need to utilize their full potential, identify untapped potential, make time bound goals, give continuous feedback and ensure they are progressing.


Your Direction is more important than your Speed!

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Moving slower in the right direction is far better than moving faster in the wrong direction!

Most productivity gurus insist on ‘how quick’ rather than on ‘how efficient’. A slight tilt in the wrong direction will have drastic results over the period of time.

Many of us believe that being busy is being productive which is absolutely wrong in the first place. Being busy with a purpose and a goal in mind is actually what it should be to achieve success.

Have you heard of the herd mentality? It is when everyone follows what someone else is doing! Whether it suits them or not, whether it will do any good to them or not, or least, whether it is required for them, people blindly copy because everyone seems to be doing or following the same. Do you believe this will give them beneficial results? Absolutely NOT!

Always, try to find your own path. Carve your unique niche. Take your time to build that pace, but be consistent in your efforts. Don’t just rush without applying your mind. Small gains each day will have a compounding effect over a period of time. So, ensure that you are progressing in the right direction and that your progress is steady.

“Don’t confuse motion with progress. A lot of people are just like spinning in circles really, really fast. They’re not going anywhere.” — Polina Marinova


Your Attitude can change your life!

Your Attitude will determine how you see this glass! Pic credit: Pixabay

Have you ever wondered what is that one key characteristic of successful people?

Their attitude!

Rather their positive and never give up attitude!

Often, we have seen very talented people not making it big in life. At the same time, we have also seen average people climbing heights of glory. Why?

Your attitude towards life decides everything. Be it your success, your well being or your relationship with others.  

So, what is this attitude all about?

The dictionary meaning of attitude is “the way that you think, feel or behave”.

As per psychology, an attitude is referred to a set of emotions, beliefs, and behaviours toward a particular object, person, thing, or event. Attitudes are often the result of our experience or upbringing, and they can have a powerful influence over our behaviour.

Attitude is how we judge/evaluate people, events, objects etc in our life. It can be extremely positive to extremely negative.

Our response (behaviour) is the result of our attitude.

How one builds up an attitude?

Mainly through our upbringing (influence of parents and family), values and beliefs, experience, learning, observation, social factors including our role in the society and the norms of the society.

Can one change his or her attitude?

Yes, of course! There are many ways to change your attitude tilting it towards more positive mindset like identifying your strength, being non-judgemental, expressing gratitude, positive affirmations, celebrating other’s success, focus on your wellbeing, keeping your thoughts positive and likewise.

Attitude is how you look at your life! Why not look at the brighter side of it?

And as the famous quote by Zig Ziglar sums it so well:

“Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.”


Do You Want to Play Victim?

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Many a times life throws multiple challenges at you at the same time. Now, you have two options: Either you take them as a victim blaming your misfortune or accept each challenge as it is and look out for a solution.

In the first scenario, you will receive lot of sympathy, advise and some shoulders to cry on which will make you more comfortable in the bad situation that you are in. You get accustomed and as an escape route, you keep on playing the victim card.

On the other hand, if you choose the second option, you will face further more challenges, you will be drained out of time and energy, there would be endless nights of pain and misery and so on…but in the end when you come out of it, you will be that finest avatar of yourself that it would be nothing but the best of you! And you will be so proud of yourself thanking the almighty for giving you the opportunity to face such challenges that ultimately made you victorious…!!

Does De-Cluttering Helps?

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The best way to improve your life is to Declutter yourself.

First and foremost, declutter the people who are harming you in anyway directly or indirectly. Do a review of the relationships around you. Are their people who just look down upon you, demotivate you, always criticize you. Are they source of your unhappiness? Cut them out of your life immediately. Don’t ever waste a single minute on them trying to prove them wrong or trying to please them. They will never change.

De-clutter the things you don’t require or to say…become less materialistic. Try to make it simple and useful rather than becoming ‘more and meaningless.’ Remember ‘Less is more’ in the present time. You will see that you are managing things very well and very efficiently.

Declutter negative and useless thoughts. Life is short and beautiful. Let it be full of meaningful and positive thoughts. Let go off the past.

Declutter negative emotions- Anger, Hate and Jealously, these are the three self-destructive emotions that will only harm you and will take away your peace. Why bother? Live your life and be happy!

Our mind is a powerful tool given to us by god, use it constructively to control the environment around you and not just let the environment control you and your thoughts.