How can a Coach help You?

A coach standing in front of a white board showing an upward graph
A coach is like your partner in your growth!

Coaching is a journey that self-aware people undertake to achieve professional and personal growth, to enhance their overall quality of life in terms of well-being and to achieve those goals which at some time they thought were impossible to achieve.

Role Of A Coach

The coach will help you to find the resources in yourself to achieve those goals or objectives that you have in mind related to your personal and professional life. The coach takes you to this journey of growth and success through new perspectives. The coach will be the best person who will know the gap between where you are now and the goal that you have in mind and will ensure you work tirelessly to reach that goal.

The coach will always talk about specifics. He will convert your goals into smart goals- specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely. You just can’t say ‘I want to do better in my Life’ or ‘I want to perform better at the workplace’. Your coach will make you talk specifics and ensure you have specific achievable goals. Your coach will be the realistic optimist. He will ensure that you have realistic goals that are attainable in a timely manner.

A good coach will always help you look better rather than trying to make you look good. This implies that the coach will not look at your past to decide or judge on your future. Many of us believe that our intelligence, our personality, and our physical aptitudes are fixed — that no matter what we do, we won’t improve. As a result, we focus on goals that are all about proving ourselves, rather than developing and acquiring new skills. Your coach will help you change this mindset and will help you develop and acquire new skills to achieve your goals.

Your coach will help you to embrace the fact that you can change. This will allow you to make better choices and reach your fullest potential. Better choices will ensure you better results which will ultimately help you in all spheres of your life; at home and at the workplace.

A coach understands that you are not only capable but also resourceful within yourself. He will help you in discovering your dreams and goals and will provide clarity by asking you to explore more into it by doing a deep dive. The coach will help you to explore and generate strategies and plans to execute these goals by giving you full responsibility and accountability. He will provide you a supportive and motivating environment to explore what you want in life and how you might achieve those aspirations and fulfill your needs.

Coach As Your Partner

In your coaching journey, the coach will often play the role of the sounding-board to your experiences and will help you commit to an action plan by allowing you the personal space and support you need to grow and develop. The coach’s key role is to assist you in maintaining the motivation and commitment level needed to achieve your goals. He will make you understand and realize that you are the driver of your life engine!

Here a word of caution! Please remember that your coach is not a therapist who will provide you with medical advise. Likewise, the coach will also never provide you with a tailor-made recipe for success. Rather it will be you who under a coach’s patronage will be driving solutions in accomplishing your goals.


Pearls of Wisdom- 4

Light filtering out of the rain drops on the window
Raindrops or opportunities knocking my window?

Heart is a beautiful pot. Whatever you plant, it grows and bears you flowers and fruits. Now, it depends on you as to what you decide to grow.

You can have best of the cars but it’s of no use if you don’t know your destination. The costliest shoes will not help if you don’t take the first step towards your goal. Costly things don’t matter; your attitude and hard work does.

It’s very easy to CRITISIZE. You will find every second person criticizing something or someone. No talent required. But to CREATE you require talent. Be a CREATOR and not a CRITICIZER.

Some people WAIT for the right time, right opportunity, and the right alignment of stars to START. And their waiting continues as the perfect time never arrives! Every moment is important…and you can begin NOW.

People will hate you when they discover they don’t possess what you have. Let them continue hating you while you continue marching ahead shining with glory.

Life is not a race to be run fast and won. Life is a journey where every halt is to be enjoyed and relished, each weather is to be felt and cherished and lastly, every person you meet on the way is to be accepted with humility and kindness.

In pursuing your dream you will have road blocks which will cause delay. Wait rather than give up because the pain of waiting will be nothing as compared to the pain of regret for giving up.

Thoughts by Anirvan Chakravarty


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A cactus plant
Thorns(Problems) are part of our life…see the beauty in them!

When the time will come to leave, you will have only memories and regrets to take along with you. Ensure your everyday is filled with good memories and no regrets.

Life does give second chance. WRONG! Life gives many chances; only you need to keep your eyes and ears open to identify and explore the opportunities around.

Life doesn’t offer you trials or practice matches to make you ready for the actual event. You need to be prepared all the time to face anything in life.

There is nothing like good time or bad time. Time has been the same as it is now for billions of years. It is we who need to grow and change ourselves to create a better time for us.

We worry too much about the outcome or the chances of Failure. In the process we give up the opportunity to try. When you try, you create chances of Success but when you don’t try, you have already failed.

Q- What you are destined to become? A- What you intend to become. So,the destiny doesn’t make you. You make your destiny!

When you only focus on problems, you will have more problems. When you focus on solutions and possibilities, you will have more opportunities. Don’t decorate your problem; you may not want to get rid of it.


Thoughts by Anirvan Chakravarty

15 Powerful Quotes by Swami Vivekananda

A plant bud with maroon leaves.

“In a day, when you don’t come across any problems – you can be sure that you are travelling in a wrong path.”

“The greatest sin is to think of yourself as weak.”

“We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.”

“Be not afraid of anything. You will do marvellous work. It is fearlessness that brings heaven even in a moment.”

“Learn everything that is good from others, but bring it in, and in your own way absorb it; do not become others.”

“We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. If what we are now has been the result of our own past actions, it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in the future can be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act.”

“Each work has to pass through these stages—ridicule, opposition, and then acceptance. Those who think ahead of their time are sure to be misunderstood.”

“Whatever you think, you will become; if you think yourself weak, weak you will be. If you think yourself strong, strong you will be.”

“We reap what we sow and that makes us the makers of our own fate.  When the wind is blowing, those vessels whose sails are unfurled catch it and go forward on their way but those which have their sails furled do not catch the wind and remain where they are. Is that the fault of the wind? We make our own destiny.”

“Believe in yourself and the world will be at your feet.”

“Things do not grow better; they remain as they are. It is we who grow better by the changes we make in ourselves.”

“He who struggles is better than he who never attempts.”

“People laugh at me because I am different;
I laugh at people cause the are all the same.”

“It is a very hard thing to understand but you will come to learn in time that nothing in the universe has power over you until you allow it to exercise such a power.”

“Talk to yourself at least once in a day otherwise you may miss meeting with an EXCELLENT person in this world.”

“Be not afraid of anything. You will do marvellous work. It is fear that is the great cause of misery in the world. It is fear that is the greatest of all superstitions. It is fear that is the cause of all our woes, and it is fearlessness that brings heaven even in a moment. Therefore, “arise, awake and stop not until the goal is reached.”


Note : Swami Vivekananda (1863-1902) was an Indian Hindu monk and a key figure in the introduction of Indian philosophies of Vedanta and Yoga to the western world. He was one of the most influential philosophers and social reformers in his contemporary India and the most successful and influential missionaries of Vedanta to the Western world. Indian Nobel laureate poet Rabindranath Tagore had suggested to study the works of Vivekananda to understand India. He also told, in Vivekananda there was nothing negative, but everything positive. To know more about Swami Vivekananda, click here.

Problems never End…

A person trying to solve the magical cube
Is solving problems that difficult?

When I was growing up, I had to face an annoying member of my family. And the member being an elder one bullied me to no end. Then, I use to think that let me grow up fast, and then I will show this person what I am! I then believed that once I grew up I’ll be independent in my life and then no one will have any say in my life. I did grow up and became fairly independent at a very early stage, both financially and emotionally, and had a good fortune not to see that person anymore. Well, being a family member we still have contacts but the person was out of my life long back once I stepped out of my house. But did it mean I did not have anyone else subsequently in my personal or professional life who was not a trouble monger to me? Or to state the broader perspective, did my problems seize to exist?

You are all aware of the answer! The ‘problems’ never seizes to occur. Rather they continuously appear in your life, time and again. The intelligent is the one who accepts this fact and makes his or her lifestyle such that it has ample room to accommodate the problems. The problems then don’t scare the intelligent because he or she knows that the only way to tackle them is to take them head-on and not by escaping or trying to avoid them. With this mindset, you attack the problems rather than getting defensive about it. And when you attack the problems head-on, you are actually engaging your-self in finding the solutions to your problems.

My experience in life has taught me one thing; a problem is as big or as small as you want to see it. And an example to that statement would be of a soldier who has lost a vital organ in the battle field but still has a smile on his face and continues with his life dealing with all problems still managing a smile on his face and with pride in his heart. At the same time, you will find many people in your day to day life, despite having the required materialistic possessions to sustain a good life and reasonably sound physical health, still complaining and cribbing day-in and day-out about the pettiest of issues! Really funny! No?…No, the real irony.

My simple suggestion to tackle a problem is to find the root cause of it. When you find the root cause, you will be in a better position to make a judgement about it. To give perspective to this rational, I would like to quote an example from the usage of technology. When we deal with systems and applications, there are occasions when we find errors showing up while using the system or the application e.g. when you check your bank statement every month, you find that your total balance does not tally as per your calculations. You do a deep dive and provide all the details to the bank staff. The bank representative looks into the matter and finds that all papers and documents are proper and in place. He further forwards the query to his technical staff for resolution of the issue. The technical guy after doing a thorough check finds that one particular investment account is not linked to your master account and hence there was a discrepancy. So, here the root cause was the linkage of a secondary account to the primary account was not in place.

Similarly, in life too we have issues interlinked with people and things. Only we need to untangle one wire at a time to reach to the main cause. See, if you can fix that. If not, continue to live with it making arrangements in your life so to have a bare minimum impact on your well-being and mental peace.

Some interesting quotes about problems:

“Never tell about your problems to others…20% don’t care about them and the rest 80% would be glad that you have them!”

“If you decorate your problem, you may not want to get rid of it.”

“When you only focus on problems, you will have more problems. When you focus on solutions and possibilities, you will have more opportunities.”

Be Happy!


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Picture of Golden Umbrella
My motivation…My Golden Umbrella!

Your true potential lies in starting from scratch again. And you are never too old, never too late and never too weak to start from scratch again.

Everything begins with a desire. Desire leads to action. The action gets you results. If you can dream it, you can do it. And if you can imagine it, you can achieve it.

You are UNHAPPY with what you have. Someone is HAPPY with less of what you have. What makes one happy? It is not the materialistic possessions or money but your ATTITUDE! Have a positive and healthy attitude always.

A grass hopper on a leaf
I am not angry…I am at peace!

I am holding on to my grudges, anger, and hatred. What am I getting in return? More grudge, more anger, and more hatred. The cycle is vicious. What if I let it GO! I will have a chance to discover peace of mind and joy. Decide for yourself. Pick the right choice!

When the time is tough and things are going wrong, just close your eyes and say ‘I know I am being shaped for good, this is my test and I’ll pass it with flying colours. I’ll wait for the day when God will reward me for being this strong’!

Fear, anger, and hatred are the outcome of your insecurity.


-Thoughts by Anirvan Chakravarty