What’s in a Name?

“What is the meaning of your name?”

He asked me in front of the whole class.

“I don’t know”.

“When you go home today, ask your father and let me know tomorrow.”

This was the conversation I had with my Hindi teacher, Mr. Cyril Sunny when I was in seventh standard at St. Paul’s, Udaipur.

I asked my father the meaning of my name when he returned home in the evening after work. He told me the meaning in short and enquired why am I asking this question. I told him about what happened in the school that day. He smiled and then said ‘Wait, let me explain you in a better way then.’

He reached out to the bookshelf and pulled out a huge thick hard-cover book with brown coloured pages. He told me it was a ‘Sanskrit-to-English’ dictionary. And then, reading from it, he explained the meaning in detail. He told me the word is ‘Nirvana’ which in Noun means ‘enlightenment’. And in the adjective, it means ‘not glowing’. So, Anirvan means in noun ‘one who doesn’t need enlightenment, say someone like ‘Gautam Buddha’. And in the adjective, Anirvan would mean ‘Glowing’.

I went to school the next day and Sunny sir asked me the meaning again during the Hindi period. I explained to him what my father taught me. He smiled and wrote the word ‘Nirvana’ on the blackboard. He then addressed the whole class for the next fifteen minutes explaining the meaning on similar lines as what my father explained to me.

To this day, I remember this incident!

I was fortunate to have teachers like Sunny sir who had such passion for their subject and students alike.

On this teacher’s day, I bow to all my teachers and convey my gratitude for not only teaching us what was required as per the textbooks but for also teaching us about life and how to lead it meaningfully.  

Cheers!

Make Your Life Meaningful!

Often we forget the reason of our living!

We get so busy in the rat race that it becomes a ‘habitual living’ rather than a ‘meaningful living’!

Pause and reflect!

You can definitely make your life more beautiful when you focus on the following:

Purpose: Having a sense of purpose in life can provide direction and motivation. It can be anything from pursuing a career that aligns with your passions, making a difference in your community, or raising a family.

Relationships: Building and nurturing relationships with others can bring joy, love, and support. It’s important to cultivate meaningful connections with family, friends, colleagues, and others in your community.

Personal Growth: Learning and growing as an individual can help you develop new skills, gain knowledge, and expand your perspectives. It can be achieved through reading, attending courses, trying new things, or traveling.

Health and Wellness: Taking care of your physical and mental health can improve your overall well-being, giving you the energy and vitality to pursue your goals and enjoy life.

Contribution: Contributing to the greater good and making a positive impact in the world can give you a sense of fulfillment and purpose. This can be achieved by volunteering, donating to charity, or supporting causes you care about.

Building Meaningful Relationships!

“Please leave your ‘home issues’ at home. Don’t bring them to the office”.

I told bluntly my young manager who recently became a father and was struggling to support his wife, who herself was struggling with the newborn baby as the couple was staying all alone far away from their family. This was many years before.

Years later, I realized how wrong I was in managing that young manager.

The ‘Empathy’ factor was missing in my interaction with him…more so, as a Boss who should have wholeheartedly supported him in his struggle.

Empathy is a critical factor especially, when you are leading a team. As a leader, you need to understand and share the feelings of your team members.

It is important to acknowledge the emotions of others, though many times you might not agree with them. But you need to recognize and respect their emotions.

Listen to others with all your attention and try to understand their perspective. Most of the time, we are prejudiced and prejudge others. 

Your team members need to realize that you are bothered about their well-being. You need to show genuine concern towards them and support them when required.

Empathy is not a ‘soft skill’, it is an important leadership trait! And it is critical for effective leadership.

So, the next time when you are faced with a difficult situation as a leader, remember the power of empathy and compassion, and let it guide your actions and decisions!

Remember, empathy is about finding echoes of another person in yourself.

Cheers!

What is your ultimate aim in life?

What is your ultimate aim in life?

Is it success, fame, or wealth? Or is to achieve spiritual enlightenment? Or is to leave a positive impact on the world?

Ok, you have achieved success, fame, and wealth.

You have also reached the stage of spiritual enlightenment.

And yes, you have done something that leaves a positive impact on the world.

But at the end of the day, if you remain unhappy then do all these achievements make any sense? In fact, at the core of all these aspirations is a single, fundamental desire: Happiness!

Happiness is a universal goal that every human being seeks. It is the driving force behind all our actions, the reason why we wake up every day and pursue our dreams.

Do you know happiness is so crucial to our well-being that it has been recognized as a fundamental human right by the United Nations?

But then what is happiness, exactly?

Many people mistake happiness for pleasure or momentary joy! They believe that happiness is something that can be bought or achieved through external means, such as wealth, power, or material possessions. However, these sources of happiness are often fleeting and temporary, and they can soon lead to feelings of emptiness or dissatisfaction.

True happiness, on the other hand, is a state of being that comes from within. It is a sense of contentment and fulfillment that is not dependent on external circumstances. It is a deep and lasting sense of well-being that is not easily swayed by the ups and downs of life.

So, how can we achieve this kind of happiness?

The answer lies in developing a positive mindset and cultivating inner peace. We must learn to accept ourselves as we are, to embrace our strengths and weaknesses, and to be grateful for the many blessings in our lives.

Another important factor in achieving happiness is finding a sense of purpose or meaning in our lives. This can come from pursuing a career that we are passionate about, volunteering for a cause that we believe in, or simply engaging in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment.

So, do not worry…be happy!

Cheers!

Are you interpreting it correctly?

Are you interpreting it correctly?

Are you?

Really?

Many times when we look at things, events, or people, we generally form an opinion and impressions based on our interpretation of them. And that might be entirely different from the actual reality of those things, events, and people!

Most of the time our interpretations are based on our beliefs, values, and our thought process. And we try to fit in things, events, and people based on that. And based on the interpretation, we react, respond, and behave accordingly.

Why do we interpret things incorrectly?

Some of the reasons include biases, misinformation, our past experiences, and most importantly the emotional state that we are in then.

If you see this from a broader perspective, most of our problems relate to this misinterpretation and this is especially true when it comes to our relationship with others- personal and professional.

Give it a thought!

The way I deal with it is by having a more positive mindset/outlook. Instead of looking at the negative aspects of things, I try to find the positive (good) side that might not be very obvious.

So, the next time your boss is after you to complete the task in time or wants you to do it better you know how to respond! Or for that if your spouse/parents tell(s) you to eat well or spend more time with children then don’t take it as a ‘nagging’ but…  

As they say “All human knowledge takes the form of interpretation”.

Cheers!

Do You Remember Your Pledge?

Forgot my Pledge!

What is your pledge?

My younger one asked his mom.

“I’ll not get angry, instead I’ll spread happiness.” She replied.

And what is your pledge?

I asked my little one.

“I’ll not make mamma angry and I’ll help her.” He replied.

What is your pledge?

My little one asked me.

“I’ll make you (my son), mamma (my wife) and tamma (his grandmother) happy.” I replied.

I have given these pledges to my wife and son and to myself. So, whenever anyone is off the track, the others immediately remind by asking “what is your pledge?”

We keep each other reminding this and the results are excellent!

These are nothing but Positive Affirmations. If we keep reminding ourself something positive throughout the day, we are bound to get good results.

Remember, in school we were told to say it loudly – I can do it! I’ll do it! I am the winner!

I am not sure if there is any science behind it, but it actually works.

Try yourself!