What can be the best recipe for a happy life?

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Learn to be in the present.

Be loving and compassionate.

Having a sense of gratitude. Always try to see what is good/beautiful around you.

Helping others joyfully.

And lastly, Learn to let GO!

The Lady In Number 6 is one of the most inspirational and uplifting stories about 109 year old, Alice Herz Sommer, the world’s oldest pianist and Holocaust survivor who shares her story on how to achieve a long and happy life. She discussed the importance of music, laughter and how to have an optimistic outlook on life. I believe she passed away at the age of 110.

Know more about her here.

Happiness is a habit. Develop an attitude of HAPPINESS.

Do You Want to Play Victim?

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Many a times life throws multiple challenges at you at the same time. Now, you have two options: Either you take them as a victim blaming your misfortune or accept each challenge as it is and look out for a solution.

In the first scenario, you will receive lot of sympathy, advise and some shoulders to cry on which will make you more comfortable in the bad situation that you are in. You get accustomed and as an escape route, you keep on playing the victim card.

On the other hand, if you choose the second option, you will face further more challenges, you will be drained out of time and energy, there would be endless nights of pain and misery and so on…but in the end when you come out of it, you will be that finest avatar of yourself that it would be nothing but the best of you! And you will be so proud of yourself thanking the almighty for giving you the opportunity to face such challenges that ultimately made you victorious…!!

Does De-Cluttering Helps?

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The best way to improve your life is to Declutter yourself.

First and foremost, declutter the people who are harming you in anyway directly or indirectly. Do a review of the relationships around you. Are their people who just look down upon you, demotivate you, always criticize you. Are they source of your unhappiness? Cut them out of your life immediately. Don’t ever waste a single minute on them trying to prove them wrong or trying to please them. They will never change.

De-clutter the things you don’t require or to say…become less materialistic. Try to make it simple and useful rather than becoming ‘more and meaningless.’ Remember ‘Less is more’ in the present time. You will see that you are managing things very well and very efficiently.

Declutter negative and useless thoughts. Life is short and beautiful. Let it be full of meaningful and positive thoughts. Let go off the past.

Declutter negative emotions- Anger, Hate and Jealously, these are the three self-destructive emotions that will only harm you and will take away your peace. Why bother? Live your life and be happy!

Our mind is a powerful tool given to us by god, use it constructively to control the environment around you and not just let the environment control you and your thoughts.

Cheers!

Have you really matured?

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The one thing that comes out very predominantly in a mature person is his or her ability to Tolerate. The power of tolerance that a mature person exhibits is very appreciable. A mature person will never…never react un-necessarily but would rather respond in a calm and sober manner. We see lot of things happening around us which we may not like or we don’t appreciate. And we are always in a hurry to ‘Give it back’ at the slightest of provocation! We seem to be so angry all the time!

We need to show maturity by tolerating ‘things’, ‘words’, ‘events’ and for that matter even ‘some people’ which/who might not be very pleasant to us. That is called maturity. And mind you…a person who tolerates doesn’t mean he or she is a weak person! No, rather the person is much strong…. mentally and otherwise.

So, I believe ‘Tolerance’ is the biggest virtue of a mature person.

What about you…Have you really matured?

It’s a Friday and a rainy day…think about it!

Cheers!

What is it that you learned very late in life but wish you knew much earlier?

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The following are the things that I realized very late in life and wish I could have known them earlier in my life: –

  1. Never stop learning: – Once you have completed your formal education and got into your first job, most of us say goodbye to the education. This is not correct. The education should continue side by side till your last day of life! Keep updating yourself. Learn something new always.
  • Be more Granular: – Avoid superficiality. Get into more details. This implies to every aspect of your life especially to your work/expertise. Remember, the more knowledgeable you are the more valuable you become to others.
  • Keep the time frame of your life in mind: – We have limited time in our life but we all live as if we would be living till eternity! So, ensure you achieve your goals in proper time frame. If you are not happy in your life then find out the reasons and fix the problem then and there. Don’t just wait that a miracle would happen some fine day and then you will have happiness. Time is precious!
  • Nurture your relationships: – This is very important. Often when young we give a damn to this. But we need people all the time – both in our personal life and in our professional life.
  • Taking care of your Parents in real sense: – They have less time. Do whatever you ever wanted to do for them. Do it now. Don’t wait for a suitable time. They will seldom ask for what they want. You have to understand them and provide them.
  • Be mindful of what and how you speak: – Nothing to add here 🙂

Cheers!

Problems never End…

A person trying to solve the magical cube
Is solving problems that difficult?

When I was growing up, I had to face an annoying member of my family. And the member being an elder one bullied me to no end. Then, I use to think that let me grow up fast, and then I will show this person what I am! I then believed that once I grew up I’ll be independent in my life and then no one will have any say in my life. I did grow up and became fairly independent at a very early stage, both financially and emotionally, and had a good fortune not to see that person anymore. Well, being a family member we still have contacts but the person was out of my life long back once I stepped out of my house. But did it mean I did not have anyone else subsequently in my personal or professional life who was not a trouble monger to me? Or to state the broader perspective, did my problems seize to exist?

You are all aware of the answer! The ‘problems’ never seizes to occur. Rather they continuously appear in your life, time and again. The intelligent is the one who accepts this fact and makes his or her lifestyle such that it has ample room to accommodate the problems. The problems then don’t scare the intelligent because he or she knows that the only way to tackle them is to take them head-on and not by escaping or trying to avoid them. With this mindset, you attack the problems rather than getting defensive about it. And when you attack the problems head-on, you are actually engaging your-self in finding the solutions to your problems.

My experience in life has taught me one thing; a problem is as big or as small as you want to see it. And an example to that statement would be of a soldier who has lost a vital organ in the battle field but still has a smile on his face and continues with his life dealing with all problems still managing a smile on his face and with pride in his heart. At the same time, you will find many people in your day to day life, despite having the required materialistic possessions to sustain a good life and reasonably sound physical health, still complaining and cribbing day-in and day-out about the pettiest of issues! Really funny! No?…No, the real irony.

My simple suggestion to tackle a problem is to find the root cause of it. When you find the root cause, you will be in a better position to make a judgement about it. To give perspective to this rational, I would like to quote an example from the usage of technology. When we deal with systems and applications, there are occasions when we find errors showing up while using the system or the application e.g. when you check your bank statement every month, you find that your total balance does not tally as per your calculations. You do a deep dive and provide all the details to the bank staff. The bank representative looks into the matter and finds that all papers and documents are proper and in place. He further forwards the query to his technical staff for resolution of the issue. The technical guy after doing a thorough check finds that one particular investment account is not linked to your master account and hence there was a discrepancy. So, here the root cause was the linkage of a secondary account to the primary account was not in place.

Similarly, in life too we have issues interlinked with people and things. Only we need to untangle one wire at a time to reach to the main cause. See, if you can fix that. If not, continue to live with it making arrangements in your life so to have a bare minimum impact on your well-being and mental peace.

Some interesting quotes about problems:

“Never tell about your problems to others…20% don’t care about them and the rest 80% would be glad that you have them!”

“If you decorate your problem, you may not want to get rid of it.”

“When you only focus on problems, you will have more problems. When you focus on solutions and possibilities, you will have more opportunities.”

Be Happy!

Cheers!