Building Meaningful Relationships!

“Please leave your ‘home issues’ at home. Don’t bring them to the office”.

I told bluntly my young manager who recently became a father and was struggling to support his wife, who herself was struggling with the newborn baby as the couple was staying all alone far away from their family. This was many years before.

Years later, I realized how wrong I was in managing that young manager.

The ‘Empathy’ factor was missing in my interaction with him…more so, as a Boss who should have wholeheartedly supported him in his struggle.

Empathy is a critical factor especially, when you are leading a team. As a leader, you need to understand and share the feelings of your team members.

It is important to acknowledge the emotions of others, though many times you might not agree with them. But you need to recognize and respect their emotions.

Listen to others with all your attention and try to understand their perspective. Most of the time, we are prejudiced and prejudge others. 

Your team members need to realize that you are bothered about their well-being. You need to show genuine concern towards them and support them when required.

Empathy is not a ‘soft skill’, it is an important leadership trait! And it is critical for effective leadership.

So, the next time when you are faced with a difficult situation as a leader, remember the power of empathy and compassion, and let it guide your actions and decisions!

Remember, empathy is about finding echoes of another person in yourself.

Cheers!

Are you interpreting it correctly?

Are you interpreting it correctly?

Are you?

Really?

Many times when we look at things, events, or people, we generally form an opinion and impressions based on our interpretation of them. And that might be entirely different from the actual reality of those things, events, and people!

Most of the time our interpretations are based on our beliefs, values, and our thought process. And we try to fit in things, events, and people based on that. And based on the interpretation, we react, respond, and behave accordingly.

Why do we interpret things incorrectly?

Some of the reasons include biases, misinformation, our past experiences, and most importantly the emotional state that we are in then.

If you see this from a broader perspective, most of our problems relate to this misinterpretation and this is especially true when it comes to our relationship with others- personal and professional.

Give it a thought!

The way I deal with it is by having a more positive mindset/outlook. Instead of looking at the negative aspects of things, I try to find the positive (good) side that might not be very obvious.

So, the next time your boss is after you to complete the task in time or wants you to do it better you know how to respond! Or for that if your spouse/parents tell(s) you to eat well or spend more time with children then don’t take it as a ‘nagging’ but…  

As they say “All human knowledge takes the form of interpretation”.

Cheers!

Simple Life Lessons for Big Impact- 3

A young woman sitting on a mountain cliff gazing the early morning sun rays

Journey

When you embark on a new journey towards a new destination, you may succeed or you may not succeed in reaching the destination but it will never be a failure as you will have so much of learning during the journey itself in terms of learning new things, meeting new people, developing new skills, some wonderful experiences and so on. Never be afraid of embarking on a new journey…

An un-even muddy road passing through the country side during early sun rise

Miracles

Miracles are nothing but the cumulative result of hard work, integrity, honesty, dedication and strong will. Your daily habits creates your future. Work on your daily routine and filter out the unproductive elements (including toxic people, howsoever close they may be to you) which consume your time and energy. You will see miracles happening in your Life. Miracles do happen…only You can make miracles happen!

Young woman sitting on hill top watching down the river flowing

People in Your Life

Long back I met a beautiful girl. I gave her a bunch of roses. She gave me the warmest smile and hugged me.

Many years later, I met a pretty woman. I gave her a diamond ring. She took it and made a face saying ’The diamond is too small’.

Moral of the story: Recognize genuine people in your life who care for you. Don’t waste your time on the wrong people!

Cheers!