A calm and relaxed mind helps you to take the right decisions
Peace of mind is very important in life!
How can we achieve it?
Meditation, deep breathing exercises, money, power, health, relationships…
What contributes to the peace of mind?
Duke University did a study on “peace of mind.” Factors found to contribute greatly to emotional and mental stability are:
1. The absence of suspicion and resentment. – Nursing a grudge was a major factor in unhappiness.
2. Not living in the past. – An unwholesome preoccupation with old mistakes and failures leads to depression.
3. Not wasting time and energy fighting conditions you cannot change.- Cooperate with life, instead of trying to run away from it.
4. Force yourself to stay involved with the living world. – Resist the temptation to withdraw and become reclusive during periods of emotional stress.
5. Refuse to indulge in self-pity when life hands you a raw deal. – Accept the fact that nobody gets through life without some sorrow and misfortune.
6. Cultivate the old-fashioned virtues—love, humour, compassion and loyalty.
7. Do not expect too much of yourself. – When there is too wide a gap between self-expectation and your ability to meet the goals, you have set, feelings of inadequacy are inevitable.
8. Find something bigger than yourself to believe in.-Self-cantered egotistical people score lowest on any test for measuring happiness.
When you are going through the challenges in your life, it is seldom that one may think of them as opportunities to grow and become a stronger person. But research has shown that past adversities are helpful in making you strong to face future challenges in a better way. Your past struggles make you more resilient- your ability to bounce back from adversity and grow from the challenge.
While dealing with your adversity you come out as more empathic, confident, more positive (optimistic), losing fear for the struggles/challenges and take them head on…so on and so forth.
Researchers have found the following growth-oriented factors as reported by the people who have gone through some difficulties or adversities in their life:
Increased appreciation for life
More meaningful relationships
Increased personal strength
Finding new ways for growth
Becoming more spiritually inclined
So, as you go through whatever adversities in your life at any point of time, just think of it as an opportunity to become stronger, more resilient and moving towards a better tommorrow!
Coaching is a journey that self-aware people undertake to achieve professional and personal growth, to enhance their overall quality of life in terms of well-being and to achieve those goals which at some time they thought were impossible to achieve.
Role Of A Coach
The coach will help you to find the resources in yourself to achieve those goals or objectives that you have in mind related to your personal and professional life. The coach takes you to this journey of growth and success through new perspectives. The coach will be the best person who will know the gap between where you are now and the goal that you have in mind and will ensure you work tirelessly to reach that goal.
The coach will always talk about specifics. He will convert your goals into smart goals- specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely. You just can’t say ‘I want to do better in my Life’ or ‘I want to perform better at the workplace’. Your coach will make you talk specifics and ensure you have specific achievable goals. Your coach will be the realistic optimist. He will ensure that you have realistic goals that are attainable in a timely manner.
A good coach will always help you look better rather than trying to make you look good. This implies that the coach will not look at your past to decide or judge on your future. Many of us believe that our intelligence, our personality, and our physical aptitudes are fixed — that no matter what we do, we won’t improve. As a result, we focus on goals that are all about proving ourselves, rather than developing and acquiring new skills. Your coach will help you change this mindset and will help you develop and acquire new skills to achieve your goals.
Your coach will help you to embrace the fact that you can change. This will allow you to make better choices and reach your fullest potential. Better choices will ensure you better results which will ultimately help you in all spheres of your life; at home and at the workplace.
A coach understands that you are not only capable but also resourceful within yourself. He will help you in discovering your dreams and goals and will provide clarity by asking you to explore more into it by doing a deep dive. The coach will help you to explore and generate strategies and plans to execute these goals by giving you full responsibility and accountability. He will provide you a supportive and motivating environment to explore what you want in life and how you might achieve those aspirations and fulfill your needs.
Coach As Your Partner
In your coaching journey, the coach will often play the role of the sounding-board to your experiences and will help you commit to an action plan by allowing you the personal space and support you need to grow and develop. The coach’s key role is to assist you in maintaining the motivation and commitment level needed to achieve your goals. He will make you understand and realize that you are the driver of your life engine!
Here a word of caution! Please remember that your coach is not a therapist who will provide you with medical advise. Likewise, the coach will also never provide you with a tailor-made recipe for success. Rather it will be you who under a coach’s patronage will be driving solutions in accomplishing your goals.
Heart is a beautiful pot. Whatever you plant, it grows and bears you flowers and fruits. Now, it depends on you as to what you decide to grow.
You can have best of the cars but it’s of no use if you don’t know your destination. The costliest shoes will not help if you don’t take the first step towards your goal. Costly things don’t matter; your attitude and hard work does.
It’s very easy to CRITISIZE. You will find every second person criticizing something or someone. No talent required. But to CREATE you require talent. Be a CREATOR and not a CRITICIZER.
Some people WAIT for the right time, right opportunity, and the right alignment of stars to START. And their waiting continues as the perfect time never arrives! Every moment is important…and you can begin NOW.
People will hate you when they discover they don’t possess what you have. Let them continue hating you while you continue marching ahead shining with glory.
Life is not a race to be run fast and won. Life is a journey where every halt is to be enjoyed and relished, each weather is to be felt and cherished and lastly, every person you meet on the way is to be accepted with humility and kindness.
In pursuing your dream you will have road blocks which will cause delay. Wait rather than give up because the pain of waiting will be nothing as compared to the pain of regret for giving up.
Thorns(Problems) are part of our life…see the beauty in them!
When the time will come to leave, you will have only memories and regrets to take along with you. Ensure your everyday is filled with good memories and no regrets.
Life does give second chance. WRONG! Life gives many chances; only you need to keep your eyes and ears open to identify and explore the opportunities around.
Life doesn’t offer you trials or practice matches to make you ready for the actual event. You need to be prepared all the time to face anything in life.
There is nothing like good time or bad time. Time has been the same as it is now for billions of years. It is we who need to grow and change ourselves to create a better time for us.
We worry too much about the outcome or the chances of Failure. In the process we give up the opportunity to try. When you try, you create chances of Success but when you don’t try, you have already failed.
Q- What you are destined to become? A- What you intend to become. So,the destiny doesn’t make you. You make your destiny!
When you only focus on problems, you will have more problems. When you focus on solutions and possibilities, you will have more opportunities. Don’t decorate your problem; you may not want to get rid of it.
“In a day, when you don’t come across any problems – you can be sure that you are travelling in a wrong path.”
“The greatest sin is to think of yourself as weak.”
“We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.”
“Be not afraid of anything. You will do marvellous work. It is fearlessness that brings heaven even in a moment.”
“Learn everything that is good from others, but bring it in, and in your own way absorb it; do not become others.”
“We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. If what we are now has been the result of our own past actions, it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in the future can be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act.”
“Each work has to pass through these stages—ridicule, opposition, and then acceptance. Those who think ahead of their time are sure to be misunderstood.”
“Whatever you think, you will become; if you think yourself weak, weak you will be. If you think yourself strong, strong you will be.”
“We reap what we sow and that makes us the makers of our own fate. When the wind is blowing, those vessels whose sails are unfurled catch it and go forward on their way but those which have their sails furled do not catch the wind and remain where they are. Is that the fault of the wind? We make our own destiny.”
“Believe in yourself and the world will be at your feet.”
“Things do not grow better; they remain as they are. It is we who grow better by the changes we make in ourselves.”
“He who struggles is better than he who never attempts.”
“People laugh at me because I am different; I laugh at people cause the are all the same.”
“It is a very hard thing to understand but you will come to learn in time that nothing in the universe has power over you until you allow it to exercise such a power.”
“Talk to yourself at least once in a day otherwise you may miss meeting with an EXCELLENT person in this world.”
“Be not afraid of anything. You will do marvellous work. It is fear that is the great cause of misery in the world. It is fear that is the greatest of all superstitions. It is fear that is the cause of all our woes, and it is fearlessness that brings heaven even in a moment. Therefore, “arise, awake and stop not until the goal is reached.”
Cheers!
Note : Swami Vivekananda (1863-1902) was an Indian Hindu monk and a key figure in the introduction of Indian philosophies of Vedanta and Yoga to the western world. He was one of the most influential philosophers and social reformers in his contemporary India and the most successful and influential missionaries of Vedanta to the Western world. Indian Nobel laureate poet Rabindranath Tagore had suggested to study the works of Vivekananda to understand India. He also told, in Vivekananda there was nothing negative, but everything positive. To know more about Swami Vivekananda, click here.
