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Should I….?

Does ‘What if…’ bothers you?

‘What if….”

Does this thought often bother you? Are you the one who spends a lot of time thinking on “What if….” before starting anything new? Do you often think of the negative aspects even if there are no valid reasons to do so?

You will notice that all your ‘What if…” have one common element- the fear factor!

 The ‘fear of the unknown’.

What is Fear of Unknown?

Most of this fear is based out of your assumptions and not on facts. You need to make yourself free from this ‘unknown fear’. Unless and until you do that, it will be difficult for you to accomplish anything important in your life- both at personal and at professional level.

How does one achieve that state of mind? I will share something from my own life. I too had many fears in my mind as I was growing up. Moving from adolescence state to a young man and then to crossing my midlife, I was continuously faced with so many fears that many times I wondered if at all will I be leading a free and happy life devoid of all my fears? Then as I gained experience in life, I slowly started taking risks; risks of giving an attempt to all the things/activities that I had some kind of fear attached to. And I was pleasantly surprised to find that most of the fears that I associated with these things/activities were mere fears only!

In practical life, they (the fears) just don’t exist!

What is the solution?

Here is the Key; to begin with, attempt very small or not very significant fears of yours and keep repeating the action (your attempt) accumulating the small victories. After a point, you will have the confidence and the mental strength to attack your bigger fears. And slowly you will achieve bigger victories. You will be ready to take calculated risks in your life and will make significant progress.

And you know what? The biggest lesson for me in all this was:

People give a damn about you!

So, the biggest worry that we have in our mind ‘what will people say’ is so irrelevant and exasperating.

And remember: On the other side of your FEAR…. lies your SUCCESS!

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Have you really matured?

Have I really matured? Pic Credit: Emaze

The one thing that comes out very predominantly in a mature person is his or her ability to Tolerate. The power of tolerance that a mature person exhibits is very appreciable. A mature person will never…never react un-necessarily but would rather respond in a calm and sober manner. We see lot of things happening around us which we may not like or we don’t appreciate. And we are always in a hurry to ‘Give it back’ at the slightest of provocation! We seem to be so angry all the time!

We need to show maturity by tolerating ‘things’, ‘words’, ‘events’ and for that matter even ‘some people’ which/who might not be very pleasant to us. That is called maturity. And mind you…a person who tolerates doesn’t mean he or she is a weak person! No, rather the person is much strong…. mentally and otherwise.

So, I believe ‘Tolerance’ is the biggest virtue of a mature person.

What about you…Have you really matured?

It’s a Friday and a rainy day…think about it!

Cheers!

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If I can give you only one tip to improve your life, what would it be?

Positive thoughts create positive results! Pic credit: Google

If I am to give you only one tip to improve your life then it would be- Be Positive always!

Whatever be the adversity, always have a positive frame of mind. Always think that good will happen…soon! Hope for the good and be prepared for the worst. This is the ideal way to lead our lives. Remember, over thinking on any situation will not lead to a solution rather it will kill you slowly. It’s like over eating…not going to help you. So, always be optimistic. And believe me, when you start thinking positively, positive things start happening to you.

It’s the most fundamental law of the universe- Law of attraction! Have positive thoughts and you will attract positivity from the universe.

Life is full of challenges…every single day. You need to be mentally strong and positive to fight out those challenges. There would be tough times time and again, and again you need to be positive to face the tough times boldly.

So, always be positive howsoever bad the situation might be and you will see that it’s not that difficult to lead a happy and peaceful life!

Cheers!

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What is it that you learned very late in life but wish you knew much earlier?

Who can be your best teacher? Pic credit : Pinterest

The following are the things that I realized very late in life and wish I could have known them earlier in my life: –

  1. Never stop learning: – Once you have completed your formal education and got into your first job, most of us say goodbye to the education. This is not correct. The education should continue side by side till your last day of life! Keep updating yourself. Learn something new always.
  • Be more Granular: – Avoid superficiality. Get into more details. This implies to every aspect of your life especially to your work/expertise. Remember, the more knowledgeable you are the more valuable you become to others.
  • Keep the time frame of your life in mind: – We have limited time in our life but we all live as if we would be living till eternity! So, ensure you achieve your goals in proper time frame. If you are not happy in your life then find out the reasons and fix the problem then and there. Don’t just wait that a miracle would happen some fine day and then you will have happiness. Time is precious!
  • Nurture your relationships: – This is very important. Often when young we give a damn to this. But we need people all the time – both in our personal life and in our professional life.
  • Taking care of your Parents in real sense: – They have less time. Do whatever you ever wanted to do for them. Do it now. Don’t wait for a suitable time. They will seldom ask for what they want. You have to understand them and provide them.
  • Be mindful of what and how you speak: – Nothing to add here 🙂

Cheers!

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Peace of mind is very important in life!

A calm and relaxed mind helps you to take the right decisions

Peace of mind is very important in life!

How can we achieve it?

Meditation, deep breathing exercises, money, power, health, relationships…

What contributes to the peace of mind?

Duke University did a study on “peace of mind.” Factors found to contribute greatly to emotional and mental stability are:

1.    The absence of suspicion and resentment. – Nursing a grudge was a major factor in unhappiness.

2.    Not living in the past. – An unwholesome preoccupation with old mistakes and failures leads to depression.

3.    Not wasting time and energy fighting conditions you cannot change.- Cooperate with life, instead of trying to run away from it.

4.    Force yourself to stay involved with the living world. – Resist the temptation to withdraw and become reclusive during periods of emotional stress.

5.    Refuse to indulge in self-pity when life hands you a raw deal. – Accept the fact that nobody gets through life without some sorrow and misfortune.

 6.  Cultivate the old-fashioned virtues—love, humour, compassion and loyalty.

 7.   Do not expect too much of yourself. – When there is too wide a gap between self-expectation and your ability to meet the goals, you have set, feelings of inadequacy are inevitable.

   8.  Find something bigger than yourself to believe in.-Self-cantered egotistical people score lowest on any test for measuring happiness.

Cheers!

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Pearls of Wisdom- 4

Light filtering out of the rain drops on the window
Raindrops or opportunities knocking my window?

Heart is a beautiful pot. Whatever you plant, it grows and bears you flowers and fruits. Now, it depends on you as to what you decide to grow.

You can have best of the cars but it’s of no use if you don’t know your destination. The costliest shoes will not help if you don’t take the first step towards your goal. Costly things don’t matter; your attitude and hard work does.

It’s very easy to CRITISIZE. You will find every second person criticizing something or someone. No talent required. But to CREATE you require talent. Be a CREATOR and not a CRITICIZER.

Some people WAIT for the right time, right opportunity, and the right alignment of stars to START. And their waiting continues as the perfect time never arrives! Every moment is important…and you can begin NOW.

People will hate you when they discover they don’t possess what you have. Let them continue hating you while you continue marching ahead shining with glory.

Life is not a race to be run fast and won. Life is a journey where every halt is to be enjoyed and relished, each weather is to be felt and cherished and lastly, every person you meet on the way is to be accepted with humility and kindness.

In pursuing your dream you will have road blocks which will cause delay. Wait rather than give up because the pain of waiting will be nothing as compared to the pain of regret for giving up.

Thoughts by Anirvan Chakravarty

Cheers!